Oops, They Did It Again!!

How do you teach children about sexual abuse? The ideal thing would be to sit down and talk to your kids about it. But the Catholic Church's idea is to hand your kid a comic or coloring book about it.

Catholic comic books warn kids of abuse

NEW YORK - The Archdiocese of New York is handing out coloring and comic books that warn children about sex predators, the first such effort by a Roman Catholic diocese in the United States.

In the coloring book, a perky guardian angel tells children not to keep secrets from their parents, not to meet anyone from an Internet chat room and to allow only "certain people" like a doctor or parent to see "where your bathing suit would be."

In a comic book version for children over 10, a teenager turns to St. Michael the Archangel for strength to report that two schoolmates are being sexually abused.

Joseph Zwilling, a spokesman for the archdiocese, said the have been distributed to about 300 schools and 400 religious education programs to use as a resource. They are also free online.

"It's to help young people to know situations they should not get into," he said. "How to be safe — but to try to do it in an age-appropriate and sensitive way."

Some critics, while applauding the intent, say the books should say explicitly that trusted adults — including priests — may be the abusers.

Zwilling said that as far as he knows, the coloring book is the first of its kind to be produced by church officials. David Clohessy, national director of the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests, said he, too, was unaware of any such effort.

Clohessy said that while he welcomes any attempt to teach children how to stay safe, he believes the coloring book should state more clearly that the predator is more likely to be a trusted adult than a stranger.

"There continues to be a bit of an overemphasis on stranger danger," Clohessy said. "I think it would be most effective if it would say, 'Not only strangers molest kids. Even adults you like and your parents respect — teachers, doctors, priests — can hurt kids.'"

But Zwilling said the vast majority of priests are "good and holy men," and he said it would have been inappropriate for the coloring book to single out priests as potential abusers. "You don't want to frighten children," he said. "You also don't want to stigmatize any group."

The closest the coloring book comes to directly addressing the 2002 church abuse scandal is a picture of a second angel — not the guardian angel — grinning at a priest and an altar boy through a wide open door.

"For safety's sake, a child and an adult shouldn't be alone in a closed room together," the text reads. "If a child and an adult happen to be alone, someone should know where they are and the door should be open or have a big window in it."

You know, this would be hilarious if it weren't ridiculous and we weren't dealing with such a serious subject. First of all, sexual abuse is not a laughing matter. To use a comic book or a coloring book to address it is like throwing something at kids to entertain them. They don't need to be entertained. They need to know the facts so that if they unfortunately find themselves in a situation like that, they know what to do.

It doesn't surprise me one bit that they refused to address the whole "a priest can be an abuser too" issue. After all, this is the Catholic Church we're talking about. They have never really wanted to address the issue. Their idea of addressing the sexual abuse scandals is to flash HUSH MONEY in the faces of victims, to protect the abuser, and to pass the abuser on from parish to parish. To not address this issue with children is like saying it's impossible for a priest or a nun to be an abuser. They may have taken vows. They may have pledged their obedience to GOD. But that doesn't mean that they can't or don't sexually abuse people.

The most ridiculous comment in the story was, "It's to help young people to know situations they should not get into." Really? I don't know of any person who "gets into" a situation where he or she is going to be or is sexually abused. Who would knowingly and purposely do that?

I'm certainly not implying that only priests and nuns are abusers. What I am saying is by refusing to address the issue, the Catholic Church is giving children a false sense of safety. Yes there are abusers everywhere, be they strangers or relatives. But there are also abusers at Church. By not pointing this out, one could argue that they are potentially placing children in danger.